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Helping Couples Cope After Infidelity: An Interview with Terri DiMatteo, LPC By Shane Birkel LMFT

Everyone knows someone who has been impacted by infidelity. It is such a prevalent reality in our society, yet there is still so much taboo and limited understanding in the way that we talk about it. There tends to be a lot of shame and judgement involved which can make it even more difficult for couples to work through it. In this interview with Terri DiMatteo we talk about how to help couples affected by infidelity and betrayal. We go into...

WHAT CONSTITUTES INFIDELITY?

Did your partner cheat on you? Are you sure? Does one of you think the other one cheated, and you can't agree that cheating has taken place? Which behaviors constitute infidelity? Is kissing another an act of betrayal? Is excessive texting or emotional sharing with another infidelity? Is there an identifiable line? How can it be so confusing? Affair recovery expert Terri DiMatteo, LPC of Open Door Therapy clears up the confusion for you! ...

The Complex Challenges of “No Contact” With the Affair Partner

The first task in affair recovery is to fully and permanently conclude the relationship with the outside party or the affair-partner. Full affair recovery cannot truly take place while a spouse or committed partner remains in contact with the affair-partner. While this task can occur expediently, more often than not, it is usually a challenging process that often comes with some backsliding. This stage of affair recovery is a complex and highly...

WHY DO PEOPLE HAVE AFFAIRS?

There are many notions about why people have affairs that suggest an evolutionary predisposition, that partners who stray are immoral individuals without conscience or that society and culture are to blame.  Affair recovery expert Terri DiMatteo, LPC of Open Door Therapy, has quite a different thought on the matter, and what she has to say about why people have affairs surprise you!  Listen now on Apple Podcasts!

WHAT REALLY HAPPENS WHEN AFFAIR PARTNERS GO ‘NO CONTACT’?

Bill and Jayla have just entered marriage therapy after Jayla discovered Bill’s affair with Sarah. During their first session, the therapist tells them that part of affair recovery requires that Bill immediately enact a strict “no contact” with his affair-partner, Sarah. The counselor explains that marriage is for two people - not three - and that marital repair won’t begin until Bill fully concludes his relationship with Sarah....