LoveBonds

Attachment. Betrayal. Repair.

Month: January 2020

Challenging Popular Notions oF the Affair Triad

We've all seen the magazine headlines, celebrity gossip stories, politicians who cheat and have listened to the experts that portray infidelity in trite and predictable ways.  Our culture tends to simplify and trivialize each person within the affair triad. In fact, the language of affairs also contributes to infidelity misunderstanding.  Popular notions suggest that:  The one who engaged in the infidelity is portrayed as a...

The Psychopathic Partner: Terri DiMatteo, LPC in Conversation with Steve Becker, LCSW

Love and relationships have their challenges but when the romantic partner is a personality disordered psychopath the challenges are steep.  Not for the faint of heart, this episode presents an in-depth discussion on being in a relationship with the personality disordered with Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Steve Becker. Steve has over twenty years of experience and specializes in narcissistic spectrum personality...

Terri DiMatteo with Pre-Marital Bliss PODCAST host Mayi Dixon on the Challenges of Pre-Marital Infidelity

What is a couple to do when infidelity occurs before getting married? Mayi Dixon, LPC host of Anchor's "The PreMarital Bliss Podcast" interviews relationship and couples counselor Terri DiMatteo. The two discuss the unique concerns that occur when infidelity happens before getting married. What needs to be considered? What is the best way forward? You can learn more about Mayi by visiting her website www.innovcounseling.com and by listening to...

The Surprising Reason Why You May Still Be Thinking About An Old Flame

Do you still occasionally think about a romantic someone special from your past? Do you sometimes wonder 'what if?' even though many years have passed and each of you has 'moved on'? Does a special past person still hold a tender place in your heart? If so, perhaps you have experienced a love that's been interrupted rather than a break-up. This episode is based on the fascinating research on lost love by Dr. Nancy Kalish. Listen on Apple...

The Surprising Way Infidelity Makes Sense: An interview by Dini of Vigilantes Radio with Guest Terri DiMatteo, LPC

Infidelity is a relationship trauma that hurts. Affairs require lies and deception to occur. The paid and suffering in the aftermath lingers a lifetime. With all of that, is there anything about infidelity that 'makes sense'? Is there any logic to it? Relationship and couples counselor, Terri DiMatteo, LPC discusses the ways in which infidelity 'makes sense' with Dini of Vigilantes Radio on the "Inside The Biz" Series. Listen Now on Apple...

Helping Couples Cope After Infidelity: An Interview with Terri DiMatteo, LPC By Shane Birkel LMFT

Everyone knows someone who has been impacted by infidelity. It is such a prevalent reality in our society, yet there is still so much taboo and limited understanding in the way that we talk about it. There tends to be a lot of shame and judgement involved which can make it even more difficult for couples to work through it. In this interview with Terri DiMatteo we talk about how to help couples affected by infidelity and betrayal. We go into...

Why You Should Not Aim for a “Conflict-Free” Relationship

It is a common misconception that a relationship lacking in conflict is desirable. Many couples that find themselves in couples counseling report, "we never fight." Although they are experiencing angst, they don't engage in conflict. What is the problem with having a "conflict-free" relationship and "getting alone"? Trusted relationship and couple counselor, Terri DiMatteo, LPC of Open Door Therapy lays out why going 'conflict-free' actually...

WHAT CONSTITUTES INFIDELITY?

Did your partner cheat on you? Are you sure? Does one of you think the other one cheated, and you can't agree that cheating has taken place? Which behaviors constitute infidelity? Is kissing another an act of betrayal? Is excessive texting or emotional sharing with another infidelity? Is there an identifiable line? How can it be so confusing? Affair recovery expert Terri DiMatteo, LPC of Open Door Therapy clears up the confusion for you! ...

The Complex Challenges of “No Contact” With the Affair Partner

The first task in affair recovery is to fully and permanently conclude the relationship with the outside party or the affair-partner. Full affair recovery cannot truly take place while a spouse or committed partner remains in contact with the affair-partner. While this task can occur expediently, more often than not, it is usually a challenging process that often comes with some backsliding. This stage of affair recovery is a complex and highly...

WHY DO PEOPLE HAVE AFFAIRS?

There are many notions about why people have affairs that suggest an evolutionary predisposition, that partners who stray are immoral individuals without conscience or that society and culture are to blame.  Affair recovery expert Terri DiMatteo, LPC of Open Door Therapy, has quite a different thought on the matter, and what she has to say about why people have affairs surprise you!  Listen now on Apple Podcasts!