Advice only helps when you understand what the relationship is supposed
to provide.
— Terri DiMatteo, LPC
ABOUT THIS PUBLICATION
A Different Way of Thinking About Romantic Love
LoveBonds is a relationship publication. Its collection of essays explores romantic love, intimacy, attachment, trust, betrayal, conflict, and the forces that shape long-term relationships.
Relationship information is everywhere: advice, opinions, tips, theories, strategies and endless explanations of what couples should do. But what is it all based on?
LoveBonds starts with a more fundamental question: What is a romantic relationship actually for?
Without understanding what a romantic relationship is for and how it is meant to function, how do we know what is working, what isn’t, or why?
Relationships require know-how. LoveBonds explores romantic relationships from that starting point, looking beneath familiar advice and conventional wisdom to understand what is actually happening between two people.
The publication is grounded in The Intimacy Bond™, my clinical framework for understanding romantic love as a mutual protective bond. It brings together emotional intimacy and sexual expression and examines the dynamic interplay between them.
Here, you’ll find clinically informed writing that helps you understand attachment, intimacy, attraction, affairs and betrayal, conflict, repair, narcissistic relationship dynamics, and the forces that shape long-term love.
Not advice for advice’s sake. Not quick fixes. Just a closer look at romantic relationships—and clearer ways to understand them.
Welcome.
